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  • #59814
    Big blue
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    Hello and happy summer!

    This guy, and probably others, needs some guidance.

    To use Inky’s well-chosen phrase, that the guy needs to pursue the woman, let’s have some fun with this question, of when the sperm should stop chasing the egg? We could put the answers in the form of that Jeff redneck guy’s “you know you’re a redneck …”

    You know you should give up the chase when:

    1.
    2.
    3.
    Etc…

    Thanks ahead of time!

    Big blue

    #59822
    danaken
    Participant

    Hello & happy summer to you Big Blue!

    What an excellent question you have posed!!! I’ve been mulling it over and can only speak for myself, but the 8 scenarios I listed below are when I think the sperm should recognize that there are other eggs in the ovary and quit chasing the one in question.

    You know you should give up the chase when:
    1. If you’ve met online and you’re getting to know one another, she sends back short replies that give you nothing to work with.
    2. She friend-zones you by telling you that you’re such a nice guy and the woman that gets you is a lucky one.
    3. If you’ve established a cadence of communication and it drastically changes.
    4. You don’t receive a reply to a text, email or phone call within 24 hours…if she’s really into you but super busy, she’ll at least reply telling you she’s busy and let you know when she can reply properly.
    5. She doesn’t show appreciation for niceties such as having a door opened for her.
    6. She isn’t willing to reciprocate spending money on you…if you’ve bought dinner and the two of you decide to get coffee, if she’s really into you, she’ll want to buy.
    7. She makes it unrealistically difficult to chase her by putting up walls. If you find that you are asking yourself, “What am I doing wrong??”, chances are it isn’t you…it’s her.
    8. You are left wondering if she likes you after more than a month of consistent communication or dating.

    To me, #s 4 & 5 are just common courtesies that either sex should extend to one another throughout a relationship. If they don’t, I consider their behavior just plain rude.

    I hope this helps Big Blue…take care!

    danaken

    #59823
    Big blue
    Participant

    Hi danaken,

    Thank you – your list is great!

    I am Very interested in your answers.

    I’m holding off discussion until others reply and discuss.

    Big blue

    #59825
    Matt
    Participant

    Big Blue,

    Your format is a challenge!

    1) The sperm always chases the egg, its by design. Consider instead not releasing the sperm until you’re in the bedroom. Not getting so ensnared by her charms that it produces agitation, chasing, yearning, wishing. Save the investment, in that way, until you’re both ready, open. Then its “what do we wish to grow?”

    2) Connecting with her heart is more about listening than chasing. When we listen, aiming is easy, doesn’t feel like a chase. More like following heartfelt inspiration, with the hope, but not expectation, of it being received well, as intended, with that smile as a reward.

    3) Consider a tit for tat strategy. If you communicate, and she doesn’t, wait. Let it be an exchange, don’t press. If her heart is in tune with yours, she’ll want to respond, offer her side back. Maybe a couple attempts initially, so you can be confident you’ve tried your best to share your desire to know her better, share a dance… but not habitually. If she doesn’t respond or plays hard to get? Move on, who needs games? Intimacy is tricky enough.

    With warmth,
    Matt

    #59826
    danaken
    Participant

    Matt…if only more men thought like you!

    #59827
    Big blue
    Participant

    Hi Matt and danaken,

    Thank you much! This us very cool.

    Big blue

    #59835
    @Jasmine-3
    Participant

    Thanks everyone.

    Ha ha Big Blue, thanks for breaking my exile. I am officially an addict now.

    1. When the sperm runs out of energy

    2. When it can’t reach the egg thanks to a properly conducted vasectomy

    3. When there is no egg to reach thanks to hysterectomy / oopherectomy.

    LOL. Can’t wait for @inky ‘s , @theruminant , @astudentofcosmos and @ablankscript response on this question 🙂

    #59839
    John
    Participant

    1. If the sperm is not a good match for the egg.
    2. If the sperm reaches out to the egg but does not hear back.
    3. If the egg is occupied with another sperm.

    Though it doesn’t have to be male=sperm, female=egg. It is so ingrained in our culture (and likely our evolution?) that the man pursues the woman, makes the first move. I’m fine with this and will make the first move, but starting with that move it must be a back and forth (tit for tat as mentioned above) going forward. I picture a tennis match where I hit the ball of interest onto her side of the court. Will she respond? How will she respond? When will she respond? Very fun and intriguing. But I am not hitting another ball over to her. Got to wait until she hits the first one back over to me (if it returns at all). And by tennis match I mean a back and forth partnership, not a competition. A respectful connection which may lead to friendship and/or more. Or nothing at all. Overall, I try to keep expectations low and respect high.

    #59844
    Inky
    Participant

    1. When the egg doesn’t exist. “Who moved my egg??”

    2. When another sperm gets to the egg first. “I didn’t want the egg anyway.”

    3. When the timing is all wrong. “The egg will make its appearance in three weeks, but will only be here for three days. I’ll just watch Star Trek here…”

    4. When another egg rides up on a bicycle and says, “Take me now!!”

    #59848
    Big blue
    Participant

    Hi John, Jasmine and Inky,

    Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    I’m going out for bacon and eggs. Oh now I’m not even sure what that means anymore….

    Big blue

    🙂

    • This reply was modified 9 years, 9 months ago by Big blue.
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