Hi Sea Monkey,

I feel for your situation and am impressed with how you are handling it.

I agree with Jasmine that you will benefit greatly from personal development. Ready or not, here it comes! Might as well see it as lemonade rather than lemons.

Selfishly I may be in the guy’s situation in a sense. I’m trying to figure out a possible relationship and I am wondering if not stressing and instead taking time makes sense. I see her all the time and I admit I am not 100% myself. I think I have been passive aggressive. Would not saying hi qualify? At times I’ve been not my finest. After reading this, I see why I should be and I will take this as an opportunity to just be me around her. Then either way things turn out, I am me. At my best. This is powerful, thank you!

Sea, I am happy for you that you are smiling more. That is a good sign and it is a good feeling – yes?

Question: if he is talking with you sometimes, would it help to ask him how he is doing? How’s your job going? What’s new with you type stuff? I ask because that is probably what you do with others, and it might get you to a less awkward place. Let me know what you think.

People try to do their best and sometimes face difficult challenges like you have now. Please see it as a time to accept yourself and to grow.

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