First of all, go on a Honeymoon. Two weeks alone with DH in a new setting.

Hey, I hear you about the soul consuming anger.

I had something like this, but to a much lesser extent. Along with the inevitable visits several times a year. Coupled with her trying to cast nagging doubts about me, her and/or DH.

What we did was literally, and unthinkably, get away during the holidays. Yes, the extended family exploded. Yes, hurt feelings were involved. But guess what? When they only see you once a year or every other year, a lot of the momentum is lost. These people move on to other victims.

I would also conveniently send DH on business trips or to his mother’s or sailing with the boys when I knew she would stop by.

Good Luck!

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