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You have a good point and it’s true; I automatically place women on a pedestal. For some reason their opinion matters so much to my unconscious but when I think about it, I really don’t care. I just want to have fun and enjoy life. The things I’ve learned in life has me certain that I’m interesting but that aspect of me flies right out the window when I’m nervous.
Seems like when I’m in those situations where I’m uncomfortable, my unconscious takes over which puts me in this weird mind state that only cares about people pleasing and being accepted by everyone. I need to understand that it’s inevitable because no one can win every one over, let alone every single girl.
I should look at the bigger picture and every day I come closer to implementing this realization. The realization that nothing is important, at least it’s only important because we focus on it. I need to stop thinking so much and just do, jump into the unknown and let my heart figure out it’s way, which is my problem. I’m not sure what I need to read/hear for this to stick to my brain. Like you said, I need to be more curious…
I’ll definitely check out his ‘Intimacy’ book when I finish with ‘Courage’. I have a bad tendency of starting books and stopping half way 🙁 I love Courage but I haven’t read it in 2 days. (Note to Self: I gotta get some text in today) I’ll probably take a trip to Barnes & Nobles and try to find ‘Intimacy’ just to indulge the whole thing in one sitting. Maybe muster up the motivation to approach one or two to girls who spark some of my curiosity? Who knows? 😀
Thank you Ruminant for your response 🙂