As one who has just been just devastated by my girlfriend of over three years suddenly saying her feelings had changed and we were done,let me ask a question. Please excuse the cynicism, as I find each day a struggle as I try to accept the reality at hand…
From reading the posts, both of you were the ones that decided to end the relationship, and no you are questioning your decisions? Maybe you should have thought about it a little more initially, or as in my case, perhaps mentioned that something was bothering you. I really resent the “See if there is someone better” outlook…silly me, thinking love would be involved. It’s not a deli folks, you don’t get to try a sample and expect your old standby to be there waiting for you if you decide you still like the old..These are peoples lives, their hearts.Are you perhaps missing the relationship more than the person, or maybe you are just grieving..a relationship ending is a loss, and we feel loss and pain, but that is not the same as missing someone and the love you had together. I was, by all accounts,a “good guy”- never drank, never did drugs or gambled, never abusive, good career, doting over her…but none of it matters-she just isn’t in love with me. She has moved on. I am crushed.

Sorry for the anger in the post, I’m just amazed people choose to end a relationship rather than put the work in and then question their decision.