Thanks The Ruminant.

Hoi Hoi Inky…you are an introvert ? Your advices are always so practical, which makes me doubt that you are an introvert. Where do you get so much experience from ? Meditation alone cant do that, can it ?

Hi Amanda

Ditching the ego, eh ? What is ego ? Everyone will give you their own definition of what is ego depending on their level of consciousness. It is the most commonly used and abused term by us all, he he.

I will share my perspective.

Ego = false image of self. So how do you ditch the ego ? It is the same as ditching the false image of self. How do you find the real image of self ? By answering the question – WHO AM I ? Where have I come from and Why ? Do you have the answers to these questions ? Perhaps not as yet…you sound like a young soul. Frankly speaking, to find the answer to your WHO AM I question, you will need a spiritual teacher and I doubt there is anyone that evolved on this site to help you with that quest 🙂

Getting to the crux of the matter, which follows your title – what others think of me, what I look like and my success etc – the answer simply lies in understanding that your real competition is self and not others. No one in this world can compete with you even if they or you wanted them to. You may ask why ? Science confirms that each one of us is as unique as it gets. No finger prints are same. No 2 siblings have the same conditioning etc. When everyone is unique and special, who are you really competing with ?

Look, we all go through these comparisons and insecurities early on in our lives. It is part of growing up so that we can learn the valuable life lessons, grow from it and expand further. Please be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself. When the time is right, you will find all the right help for the right reasons.

Someone had asked a similar flavoured question on another thread few days back. If you wish you can look it up on: http://tinybuddha.com/topic/i-feel-like-i-always-fail/

Until then, enjoy and savour every moment for what it is worth. You are awesome as you are. So is Inky and so is The Ruminant.

Blessings,

Jasmine