The Ruminant and Inky – thanks for the stories! Glad you had a breakthrough Inky, and it did indeed resonate with me. Its so true though… why are we the ones that ended up feleing bad / guilty etc for setting or expecting boundaries for crazy situations?! And yes, I understand your situ where you had to appear occupied or say your busy for that crazy friend. You were dealing with “crazy” so i wouldve done that too!
Re: the cooking for him, i know its an awkward siutuation and I’m understanding the the jealouy is coming from the thought of them playing this married couple as Emmanuele said. I spent the weekend at his house (reason for the late reply to this thread) and he’s been mentioning that its been hard for her to find a place. I have heard her complain about having bad credit thus causing her to miss out on all these places she applys for and he’s not charging her but instead having her buy groceries and toiletries because her ex took the deposit from their last place and she doesnt have money saved up yadda yadda. Oh and to question regarding why she doesnt stay at a girlfriends house? Beats me! She’s stayed with him years ago (another time looking for a place) for 3 months! She has many female cousins so Im not sure why she doesn’t go there. This past weekend though, she stayed at one of her cousins house the entire weekend. He said hes been asking hows the place hunting more often so she prob wanted to give him space. He seems kind of concerned why she was away though by texting and checking on her. Perhaps overly concerned or maybe jsut worried? idk.. i just noticed that over the past couple of days.
Big Blue, i will take take your advice and ask all the whys, whens and hows moving forth. I can see where your getting at 🙂 I tend to bottle my emotions ( that was so spot on The Ruminant) I have a habit of analyzing the situation first before anything is said when I should jsut speak more from the heart and what im feeling. Im witness what i do and I work more on myself everyday. I’m starting to get tired of this heaviness on me and ‘ve decided to focus on me and my spiritual growth. Im going to try to just trust and let thing fall as they may and hope I find out what I need to know and/or do in the days to come. Thats all I feel i can do at this point.