@Michael: You are not the one struggling with it. I know it might be not 100% correct to say that the first weeks are the worst, and to me, the first weeks acted like a knife stabbing into my heart, the later weeks (even the current weeks) feel like the lasting aching pain it left. I know it’s hard, and I myself spent months clinging to the hope of getting back. But in every relationships, it takes 2 to work it out. If it’s just you doing the work, it’s not fair for you and for your love too. I know you must have been a great lover in the relationship, as you gave her everything you had. However, sad but true, doing your best doesn’t guarantee that you will get the same back. Things which some cherish and appreciate mean nothing to others, and it’s such a waste of love to be spent on someone who doesn’t care or want it. The love will always stay with you, but direct it into loving yourself first after this breakup. And then, from there, you will find someone who truly cherish your great love and give you back the love you want. I understand your pain, as I’m going through it right now. Many bad days and only very few good days, but I realize and believe that, the only way to go through this and possible future breakups (gosh, I don’t want those though :D) is learning to love yourself more, be a person who is happy no matter what with or without a partner. I’m trying it right now, by making a list of stuffs I want to, or at least want to try doing. Make your life busy and create new interests, try something new. I found it really effective, even though at the end of the days, after all, I felt empty, but that emptiness will lessen, I promise. About Facebook stalking your ex, I suggest you STOP IT RIGHT NOW. It will only drag you down. I know it because I did the same thing. I cut it off for 3 weeks, felt great, and checked his FB and went back to depression (even though he did almost nothing on FB). You have to remember, what she’s doing right now is NONE of your concern. She’s living her life, and you have no control over it anymore as you guys broke up. Trust me, just block her or unfollow her if you can. Life now is about YOU, not HER. Focusing on yourself instead and what you will do from now! Reading books, watching movies.. just try to do everything that you think might help regain yourself. For example, writing on this thread on Tiny Buddha really helped too 🙂