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Thanks Raeeka – you are so beautiful and vibrant looking 🙂 Warms my heart just looking at your picture. And no, I am not hitting on you he he he
Thanks Paul – very insightful 🙂
Hi Peace57 @peace57
Thanks for telling us a little more about yourself. I will address few issues raised in your post with my creative thinking hat on 🙂
– creative field: no different to scientific field or any other field where there are more opinions than facts. When we deal with people, we are dealing with emotional beings. Beings, who think their idea or creation is the most superior. It is the survival of the fittest kind of thinking that we all have. We shouldn’t feel bad about this trait but instead learn to use it more effectively. A bit of give and take and good negotiation can do us all well. There are many negotiation courses that you take part in, which will guide you in working optimally in any field, which involves humans. Or you can go to a park and watch some dogs come together for the first time and learn from them lol
– Fear. We all have fear of some sort. You can either have fear or you can have love. When you love something, you don’t have fear. When you fear something, you cant love it as you keep thinking about its loss etc. How to turn this around ?
You are respected, you are the best in your field, you are mature, you know what you doing and you have a lot of work experience – All good. Others can take your spot too if they wish as it is not difficult to find a better and bigger person out there. The ultimate question remains: So what ? You are YOU. They are they. We all bring something valuable to the table with our unique capabilities and perspectives. Some people will appreciate it and some wont. So what ? Live in fear ? NO.
You tackle the fear head on. You learn the lessons that the fear is trying to teach you and move forward. Every experience can teach us something if we open our eyes to it. Every negative emotion can lead us to freedom if we see the underlying blessing and go beyond our ego stroking habits. If something is meant to be yours, no one can take it away and if it something aint yours, keep tryingggggggg to have it and it aint coming or staying with yah (opinion rather than a fact…but may become a fact in the future, lol)
When you are fearful, you will lose in the rat race whether you like it or not as your creativity will not be at maximum. You can either use your energies for creating something awesome or you can use your energies to create fear. It is your choice.
There is an awesome book by Susan Jeffers titled, feel the fear and do it anyway if it takes your fancy.
– Now coming to my secret of how I deal with my emotions before entering a room with people. I have only mastered this technique few months ago and it is working wonders for me. No more arguments, no more pressing hot buttons, no more what ifs, no more you are wrong and I am right etc.
Before entering any room with people, I send positive energy into the room (imagine white light engulfing the whole room) and offer a simple prayer – pls help me to stay light and bright. If disagreements occur, let me handle it without losing my temper or getting judgmental. It is going to be an awesome and productive meeting and I will learn something valuable for the future. And wah lah…..each meeting, each client……is suddenly vibrating at positive frequency rather than a disagreement frequency.
Try it before you buy it.
Enough of my preaching 😉
Ciao my friend
J