Hi all,

To me it seems as if this role that you have in the project is very much tied with your ego and identity, thus making it very difficult to give in, as it would be like losing yourself in the process.

What helps me to relax, keep calm and let go is to remember that any one particular role that I’ve taken in life or any one particular relationship or situation is not my whole life. Any one relationship or role only become as important as I make it to be. If I am finding it difficult to deal with someone and I still have to, I kind of detach emotionally from them and simply do not make it a big deal. It’s just one person and there are other things and people that make my life rich. I make my own life rich. This doesn’t exclude focusing on positive energy or feeling compassion towards the other person. It just makes it easier when there is no “obsession” about the other person.

Mentally, it becomes really tough when you think that you’ve put a lot of effort into something and then there is the fear of losing it. But that is an attitude thing as well. You can believe that if you don’t get to keep your place, then your whole life will end, or you can not take it as seriously and believe that you have a lot to offer to this world regardless of that one particular project.

Getting involved with other things as well and spreading interests makes it easier to not get too attached to any one particular outcome. Also, keeping yourself grounded so that you don’t start to imagine things before they’ve even happened.

Best of luck to you!

• This reply was modified 10 years, 4 months ago by The Ruminant.