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Hi Zaica @Zaica

Thanks. It is good to see that you have some clarity. It shouldn’t be too difficult for you to figure things out.

All I would say is that close relationships (esp the blood relations) require a lot of love, patience and nurturing. When 2 people stay under the same roof, they are bound to have arguments, misunderstandings etc. Now it is upto you as to how you wish to operate in life.

I will share a bit of how I operate. I am 36 and a DINK.

I do not live with my in laws and / or my parents. It is a decision I made a long time ago even before getting married and my husband was very much on board with my decision but I took a lot of time to explain my reasoning to him. My husband’s family all live together under one roof with other DILs and all (except for us). Everyone in the family from both ends gets along fine and has a lot of respect for each other. We have different levels of literacy amongst us all but we do not call each other names or behave in childish manner if we have misunderstandings or arguments.

My ILs and parents are always welcome to come and stay with us in our hone when and for however long they feel like. And they actually do that quite often and we all have a fabulous time.

Above didn’t happen without love, respect and nurturing. It is very easy to choose friends but when it comes to family, we don’t get a choice. This concept used to intrigue me a lot in my younger days and when I figured out that there is a very big reason for our family members to come together in a pack, my thought process changed. From, I DONT WANT YOU IN MY LIFE, changed to I NEED YOU IN MY LIFE to help me progress further in my quest.

Our family members can teach us a lot of about ourselves. They can be very good mirrors for us and help us grow in the school of life (which is my motto).

So I live and I let them live BUT with love and respect. And what do I get in return ? LOVE and RESPECT. You have a similar choice.

Stand up for what matters to you and your son’s well being. Don’t be afraid to set on a path. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you have learnt something valuable and can change your path again. Learn the lessons and move forward.

Where is the stress of jumping from a cliff ? These sort of dialogues only suit cowards. From your post, you seem like a sensible woman so behave sensibly as well.

Best wishes and may you continue to get clarity for your situation. Whatever you decide, it will be for your highest good 🙂

Jasmine