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So glad I could help Zoey and yes the most important thing a person can do is fall in love with themselves! When it comes to confidence I myself have been on the journey to becoming the person I would love to be (which is the funnest thing to do) and it has taken me years and years of practice I am not 100% there yet, but I can see a huge change in myself and in the people around me and the way they treat me. You need to start slow with yourself start with deciding what your most important values are in life and what you find to be most important such as respect or loyalty or fun or inner peace , whatever it may be you need to decide that in order to start sticking to it. In order to have confidence and love yourself you must mirror what you admire and you must stick to what you believe and that is why I think starting with your most important values should be first. After doing that you could sit and think what you don’t like about yourself or what you think your weakness is and start focusing on that for a while it might touch some sensitive places in your heart , but in order to grow you must really get “naked” with yourself:p. Then you could start from there and decide whether its a part of you you would like to accept or a part you would prefer to change. I myself have an entire folder on my laptop of my journey, if you would like I could send you more information about what I did , but I was a bit obsessed and still am with personal growth haha:) but it really has paid off:)
When it comes to him I am not sure exactly what is in your heart and prefer not to judge , but I do think that it is probably more of a crush than true love , for me I believe TRUE love comes only once in a lifetime and it is mutual, if someone doesn’t like you back than that wasn’t your true love and it was probably just some attraction you had for each other. Once you fall in love with yourself you will not want him anymore trust me ! You wont want to have anything to do with someone who doesn’t want to be with you , be that a friend or a lover 😉
Good luck on your journey 🙂
Alpal