Hello again Irene,

Yes, my fundamental belief of my own worthiness has changed, and I can never unchange it again (which is a good thing). My personality hasn’t changed and of course there are still good days and bad days. Still, my whole life has changed for the better.

That’s about it, in a nutshell 🙂

I view us people and our personalities as kind of like an unique image in a tainted glass. The image in itself does not change, but it looks different depending on whether there is light coming through it or not. We all have capabilities and personalities that are neither good nor bad, but we can use them for good or bad, reflecting how we feel about ourselves (and as an extension about the rest of the world). Someone who is in pain might use their abilities to hurt other people. It’s not because they would be fundamentally a bad person, but because they believe that that is what they are. If that belief can be changed, everything else would change as well, even though it would stay the same. Does that make sense?

The moment you truly understand that you are worthy of love, you’ll automatically change your behaviour to be healthier. Instead of just treating the symptom (though that is a good idea as well), you’ll need to treat the actual cause. After that the environmental factors don’t rock the boat as much as they do when things are a bit shaky.

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