Hi Denise,

Do you go to University? If not, that would be your first step.

As a young adult, this type of dynamic is the “price you pay” if you live at home.

What works well (at least in my home LOL) is to do simple things: make the bed, do the laundry (even theirs!), do the dishes, take out the trash, while you’re going out ask if they need anything… without asking anything in return!

Tell them your hopes, your dreams, and more importantly, your plans. Ask them for their advice. Parents love that!

Parents act that way out of fear of the world out there (more scary than when we were growing up) and the fear that they will be parenting forever.

Ease their minds. Go to school, get a “real”-ish job, live by their rules, don’t argue (bite your tongue LOL), do simple chores (make their lives easier by having YOU in it!), ask their advice ~ Golden!