When I see a conflict and I feel the need to intervene I try to remember that everyone involved is a grown-up, and that it is not for me to fix anybody else’s problems. I can’t, in any case, and trying just creates mental proliferation in everyone. (Or, to use a different term, it causes ‘drama’).

When it comes to seeking approval, I have a line that’s catchy and easy to remember: “What other people think of you is none of your business.” Oh, it’s hard, for sure, but remembering that little joke helps me let go.

Also remember that you’re not alone in seeking approval from everyone else. Everyone has insecurities and wants to be liked. In this way, you and your colleagues are in it together, all anxious, all trying to do right, all worried they’re messing up. That may make it easier to focus on dealing with your own business rather than everyone else’s.

Work hard/good luck.