Ed,

If you were to reframe your internal struggle as an aikido match, what would you see? Perhaps look at how you have a vision of her, like an aggressor, bringing disruption, pushing energy at you, through you. What would you do in such a case? How would you absorb the energy, flow alongside it, and redirect the moment back toward harmony… if it were a physical form? Its not much different internally, emotions arise from physical causes.

With warmth,
Matt