Kate,

My relationship of 3.5 years just ended almost 2 weeks ago (for the second time with the same girl, we got back together for a year). Although i do not feel nearly as hurt as I did last year (my first ever heartbreak), I did feel pretty crappy and lonely this time around. But it has almost been two weeks and you know what, Ive written down all my feelings about myself and her and I have realized that I have WAY more to offer than she does and I am way better off.

You may realize this too. I am not feeling the best ever but I am feeling pretty good. The best part is that I know that in the near future I will be feeling the best EVER, as I will be entering the career that I believe I was made out for. I am constantly working out, improving my body, but more importantly I am improving my mind. I keep reminding myself that I am all I need to be happy. I don’t really hope anymore. Instead of lame hope, I just have faith. That is, faith in myself and faith that great things will happen to me.

You should have the same mindset, and if you dont have it, like I didnt, then train your mind. Use affirmations, write down everything that is awesome about you (dont you dare be modest). Also, write down all the negative about your ex, as this will put them back into prospective for you and you may just realize, like I did, that you are so much better than that.

The easy part for you is that you already know that you are worthy and good enough, so keep hammering that into your mind and soon your mind will enforce these facts for you without effort. Go see family and friends, also, make new friends!

Don’t ask yourself “why me?” , because often the answer comes up in the future and you realize that it may have been a blessing in disguise. Take this time to conquer your mind Kate, once you wholeheartedly believe in yourself, love yourself, are confident, and happy, then all else will fall into place 🙂

It is tough, but YOU are tough and you are going to get through this whether you like it or not! Don’t give up, you are awesome 🙂 !