Hi elephantgirl,

That feeling of not really being there, of still looking for a relationship, of knowing it will end ~ that was all your intuition talking. You could have behaved differently in 100 different ways and it still would have ended.

The main problem is that you are essentially an international scholar. That you will eventually go home or move on. No one wants to deal with that or you will have to get Serious. No one is ready for Serious. That’s the problem!

Consider this ending a gift ~ you can now devote 100% of your energy into your thesis!

As for the guy ~ he may never come back, or he could eventually come to his senses and contact you. For now, make believe he is on vacation and can’t be contacted, and believe that you will meet your soul mate soon ~ that he agreed to break up with you because he knows your soul mate is coming and he would be pushed out anyway. It seems childish to do, but it works, it will help you get through the day.