i should add that i always have in the past pulled myself out of any potential relationship before i fell to hard for the other person, because of the fears of hurt but also the fear that i would become needy and focus all if not most of my attention on the person im with, loosing interest in my own life & eventually becoming too dependent and chasing them away. I becom e unfocused easily and everytime im seeing someone i find it hard to focus on my own life