I was just talking with a friend about this type of thing the other day… When I’m not sure what’s going on, but want something different than what I fear, the best thing I’ve found to do is be direct, honest and authentic. Then, no matter what the outcome, I’ve done my part, I’ve cleaned up my side of the street, and I’m right with me.

So for example, you could call (I think voice is better, even if you get voice mail) and say something that’s true, honest and authentic like, “I miss hearing from you, I’ve really enjoyed our time together and would like more but I want to respect where you are in your life. Give me a call, or text, to let me know how you’re doing either way please.”

Then if she calls great, if not you will know but you will also know that you’ve been true to yourself and stated what’s in your heart.

• This reply was modified 10 years, 2 months ago by Lucinda. Reason: added last sentence