Hi again everyone,

I’m not sure where I am going with this. I’ve been going through different stages of feeling bad about relationships ending, thinking about if my past marriage has had an affect on that, and then just thinking about working on myself.

The thing is, I’ve been trying to work on myself for over 3 years now, so when do I start to have a relationship again?
I said I was going to stop trying online dating but I thought I would send out some messages to a few different women on there.
It was completely different from the first time I was on there. I was totally ignored by everyone I messaged. Did I just have a good streak of luck the first time I went on there?

I don’t know if I was more relaxed the first time or not. It was just weird having everyone brush me off. I know it would probably be best if I just didn’t bother right now, but after getting that feeling of closeness with someone again, I want to have more of that.

I don’t know what’s the right thing to do anymore. From what I have read, and from what everyone says, I should work on myself and be with my family. I have been there for my boys since the marriage broke up. I’ve tried to work on myself, but when it come to family, I need space from certain people. There are too many “fixers” in my family. One in particular, wants to save you all the time, and tries too hard to help you. Some people here would probably envy that a bit, but it gets to be too much.

I miss being connected to someone. I miss holding someone and knowing that you are there for each other. I started to feel that again recently, and I realized how much I missed it. I know that my time will come and that I need to be patient.
After 3 years, how much longer though?