Well, you’re passive aggressive because if you were aggressive about it there’s a chance he could leave you. There’s also “Not wanting to ask, but wanting nonetheless”. You want the Instagram photos to be from HIM, not because he felt he had to put them up there!

A few things:

1. Who is his “audience” on Instagram? Does he have a huge following pre-You, is he popular, is he expected to have certain pics? What is the purpose and “theme” of the account? What goes through his mind before he thinks a pic is Instagram worthy?

2. If you are alive and well in his FaceBook universe, I wouldn’t worry too much. To me that one’s more Real, it’s like The White Pages LOL.

3. It could be a single guy vestige. OK, there was/is this site called Odd Todd. It was all about a single unemployed guy in NYC and the cartoon was a direct reflection of its creator. Huge following. HUGE. Well, life goes on and the guy gets a girlfriend IRL. He slowly, gradually, gently gave her a little bit of an appearance (“I have a GF and she exists”). You can bet some of his following got angry/sad/disappointed. It’s like when Cathy, the cartoon character, got married on the strip.

4. If he doesn’t have a following, he should get over it. I knew a band *cough* who would refer to their GF’s as “lovers”, “consorts”, “concubines” to their “fans” (all 50 of them) to project an image of the women who weren’t just going away LOL. This was PRE-internet, everyone is married and the band is disbanded now. LOLOL

Good Luck!