Hi Tyler,

“But there is this feeling that keeps coming back “the longer i wait, farther away she gets”. Sorry, does anything make sense?”
Yes it makes perfectly sense, you fear that the feelings she still have for you may fade. However, that’s exactly the direction she said she wanted to follow. That is what you have to respect, the fact that she is free to move away or get closer. Anyway, even if you were still together, she could start moving farther away (in a sense that is what happened in your relationship). So these are things you should think about when you are actually in a relationship, not when you are out of it. However, you should not worry about that: you either respect your partner for her capacity to make choice independent of your own and are proud she chose you or you do not like that and you should find someone who is better suited for you and follows your decisions. Anyway, when a person starts to move away, you should question whether you want to follow her or it is better to part. It is not a good thing to stay in the same place if you are not both happy, it is not good only one of you is happy, don’t you think?

“Well, it is i guess….. but if i am missing her like this, despite all the good things in my life…..so could she?”
Yes of course she is missing you as much as you are missing her. But she decided to move on, because she realizes that your personalities do not fit very well together. You said you changed, but you are giving signs that you did not change like your first question I answered up above. Really, it is just natural to suspect your change is temporary and due only to the feelings of the moment. That’s why it is may be good thing to move and think about what you really want in life and maybe make changes to all the aspects of you life. Change requires time, you do not have to change your actions only but also your thoughts. If you do something just to keep her close it is not going to work, you should do something because you believe it is right. Why do you think your change is a good thing?

“I should give up, right? When things are done, they are done, correct? There is never another chance when a relationship trully breaks, right?”
You should give up the old relationship. The rules, the habits, the ways you talked to each other did not work. However, there is always the chance for a new relationship. She said she did not feel comfortable with you the way you were. Once your change is complete, she may notice it and be back. Then you will start a new relationship, with new rules, new habits and new ways.

“What i don’t think is possible, is for someone, despite being happy, to forget all the feeling and love for the guy they loved, the most special guy of their lives. Or does that happen too?”
She did not forget you. She is just seeing the past under a different light. Now she knows you better. She recall her feelings as they were, but she wonders whether it was OK for her to feel them in the first place. After all something she thought good and pleasant lead her to unpleasant fight. She may like to experience those feelings again, but she is scared of the consequences. So she tries the best she can to keep everything under control. Change within and maybe you will show her that she can trust you again. But, do you really want to change or is it better to find someone you don’t risk to hurt inadvertently?