Anyone,

It seems you have already answered your own question in the first paragraph “It doesn’t remain ‘just a friend’ for me. I have started developing feelings for him. I can’t understand the concept of ‘friends with benefits’”. Nearly always in a friends with benefits situation one person gets hurts and it is never the person who initiated it but the other person who wants more.

If you are worried that you will end up getting hurt take the steps to protect yourself from that. You both get along then why not meet him for a coffee but without the sex afterwards? And take a stand on that, tell him you want to get to know him but without the sex. If he is able to do this with you, you will get a true sense of whether or not he really wants to get to know you/likes you, or if he’s just wanting to get his leg over (so to speak).

From my own experience, a guy will almost never commit in a situation whereby he is reaping all the rewards of a relationship (namely sex), without the headache of a commitment. Respect yourself, set boundaries in what could end up being a toxic situation for yourself and trust that truth and time will tell if this man is really for you.

With warmth,

Tiny Butterfly