Hi Tyler,

If you did said everything and did everything, then you really know you cannot count on the past to speak on your behalf. What you did is gone to her eyes indeed. But the point of our suggestions is not whether she still loves the man you were in the past. The point is whether she may love the man you’ll be in the future. You also say that you would feel the same if you were with her. That means that you cannot really accept starting all over right now.

The fact is that you lost the past, you lost what you build so far. When you’ll give up on it, when you’ll accept the loss, you’ll realize that you can start with her together anew. If moving to a new city helped you, why don’t you consider an holiday or finding a new job somewhere else?

I know that it hurts when you think she may be with another man. But you cannot blame yourself, if she could not be that strong to do her part and still be with you to solve the problems. Anyway, chances are she will meet the same problems with another man as well, she may live some of the experiences she lived with you, and in those moments you’ll cross her mind. You are still there in her heart somehow, just hidden by the memories of the last pain and the new experiences she is living. I know, it’s a small consolation. But it is always something you can rely on, if one day you decide to start anew with her.