Hi Kim,

The first question you absolutely must have the answer to is has he slept with anyone else in the flesh? The phone thing you can chalk up to his mommy issues, and to fantasy. But if he is talking polyandry, that he can’t be with one woman, and taking breaks you have to be sure there is no girl friend in the background. It seems you are getting caught up in his psyco-babble.

In my humble opinion, hire a private investigator so you know exactly what (or who!) you’re dealing with.

If there is a woman in the background (flesh and blood), end it, let her have him. You could fight for him and “win”, but you would always be fighting phantoms as you can’t trust him. If it’s just internet chat, see a marriage councilor.