Hi Seankits

I read through this revised letter you want to send a few times, and think you’ve done a fine job in expressing yourself. I think the lawyer is right there’s no need to go into details more then what is in this letter. It’s good that you wished this person that was so important in your life well for her future and want to tell her how important she was to you and how you’ve grown as a person. If you send this letter in May as he advised (if a lawyer says this is the best time it’s probably very good advice to listen and do ok) please be aware that if you don’t get a reply back at least you got to express yourself in this fine letter, and that’s a healing thing to do for yourself as well. Sometimes people even write goodbye letters and never send them, it’s more to help ourselves in overcoming our sadness in losing someone.

I can tell you really cared deeply for her and are feeling sad about how things turned out, your missing her and wished perhaps that you could be more like the person you are now, with her. Often the rough times, though they make us sad, teach us our biggest lessons in life and I was glad to hear in your letter that you’ve learnt things from losing this person in your life. Being able to learn from mistakes is such a very important thing and sometimes people come into our lives, especially, to help teach us lessons. Try to focus on how you’re becoming a more mature young man because of this, and all the things you have learnt.

I think perhaps if you still wish to send the letter in May (as the layer advised) send it away knowing it is a ‘Goodbye letter’ and that you are wishing her well, because even though you might send this letter things may stay as they are now ok? and in the mean time focus on healing this sadness in yourself. Forgive yourself for the past, keep growing and learning about yourself. You sound in the letter you wrote to her, that you’re doing a great job on your personal growth:) but this path of life is always open for new learning and growth until we all are old and spending our days in our rocking chairs 🙂

Be kind to yourself, go out and have some fun with your friends, you deserve some fun.

It might be hard to imagine just now but there is no ‘one’ person out there that is our perfect partner by letting go of the past and healing yourself you open yourself up to all that the future has open to you, someone else who will also be very dear to your heart, and you’ll be able to look back to the time before June with fondness, as lovely memories because your life has moved fore ward as life should.

You sound like a great person!
Best wishes to you