Hi Runedelavince,

I assure you it was nothing personal and I did not aim to cast a bad light on you, we are all in anonymity here.
Nevertheless, I did not say that you as a person needed a therapist, but I said that you two as a couple needed a therapist.
If you really can forgive and forget, and can trust him again, then it is really fine. Tough, it is not the best thing to remain with him no matter what he does.
So my advice is the following: try to send him a message and explain to him that you are sorry you walked away from him, explain that it was your reaction because of the previous disappointment. Tell him that you thought about it and you are willing to forgive and forget and start anew. Tell him you are going to handle your future anxious reactions a little better. Tough, try to not stay with him if he does not acknowledge his shortcomings as well. If he does not answer to your reply move on. If he disappoints you again, as you said, move on.

One further advice for handling your anxiety: think that he is a man, a creature of the world. He is driven by many instincts you have no power to control, he may some rationality, agree with you on something, but later he may change his mind. He is not a kid, so you cannot blame him, he is free in the constraints of the laws. Embrace his freedom, embrace his instincts, accept him for whatever he does. He cares for you one day? Be thankful and glad. He stays with somebody else the next day? Give him your blesses either hope he may return or move on. Love him for everything he is, as colorful blinking star in the ever-moving infinity of the sky.