Hi Ses156,

Yoe’s advice about finding new things and experiences to pursue in life is a sound one. You’ll find that you’ll bring more to a relationship that way. Anyhow, let me give you also another advice: love is not something you need to see, hear and touch in every moment. It is a mental link between you and your partner, it is a bond of trust, care and support, something you can carry and feel even at a distance, even in silence, even when you are alone. It is a warm aura that follows you and makes you better at everything you do. Its the awareness to have someone who you can go to if things go wrong, it is the understanding to do something not just for yourself but also for your partner, it is the possibility to celebrate you successes with a person that cares for you and is proud of you when you achieve them. It is doing independent things and sharing independent things for you both.

So you’d like to define what you want to share, what you to do as a life goal, what makes a partner reliable, what you want from your partner in order to ensure an happy and sustainable relationship, what you are willing to give. Think also about life on a whole and try to be concrete: your partner may also need his space to work, to meet with family and friends and to pursue his own hobbies. There is variability among people, but if you define a range, it will be more easy to look for the person who may satisfy your need (just know there are always trade-off to make with other qualities). So explore, know the world, meet people as persons you’d like to know about and you’ll get a fair sense of what you can actually ask them.