It has taken me 25 years to have the relationship I have with my father and though our experiences are different, I feel that I may be able to offer some advice. First off, you can’t control any person and your dad is the way that he is. You gotta to be able to accept that person by focusing on all the positive traits about him that you just listed.

What worked best for me was learning from my father’s behavior and using those lessons to become a better man. I’m not saying you should do this, but use everything you can to better yourself because if you continue allowing him to anger you and allowing him to make you feel uncomfortable in your own house then you’re the one that will pay for it. Your dad will not be in your life forever and it’s important that you learn to become grateful for the moments you do have with him.

Dealing with family can be hard but if you want to find peace with them you have to first have peace within yourself. Always be willing to forgive and don’t lose your temper with him. Be the best person you can be so that when your time together is over, you can look back on the experience with acceptance and happiness.

thepathofaronin.blogspot.com is my personal blog and may help, so please feel free to use it. Stay positive. Good luck, my friend.