Hi maggieblack,

Since you are 1000 miles away, how do you know any of the bad stuff is true? At age 50, you surely know 9/10 the man always claims “They haven’t slept together in years” (Right).

“I’m in the office all day, I only go home to sleep.” (Sure.)

Some variation of “My wife is crazy.” ( “20K” in therapy? Yeah, OK.)

For a mistress to be upset because “he” pays for “her” elective surgery seems a little over the top. (Dollars to donuts she works and it’s from the household account.)

I know it’s hard, but you are just the girlfriend. The only correct thought you have in all this is to scale back the relationship until he leaves her. (If he “allows her to get her way to avoid all conflict” I’m sorry to say he won’t.)

Maggieblack, you’re not a kid anymore, so please don’t kid yourself.

You Can’t Go Wrong when you Do the Right Thing,

Inky