Why would he want to spend all of his free time ( and not so free) with me on the phone if he he is interested in staying married? I have only seen him in person a few times. We went to high school together and he says he has always liked and respected me and is looking for someone he can have a good life with when he gets out of this marriage.
I absolutely trust that he wants out of his marriage.
I am just not happy that he is still trying to accommodate her. For a man it’s just a way doing things, but to me, a woman, it is much more because he is giving her resources and that is something that makes us feel like is something you do with someone you love and want to be with.
So, yes, the signals are mixed for me as of now.
I know I have no right to feel this way, but he is the one who came to me and asked me to be there for him when he gets out of this.
I spend a lot of time on the phone with him and listening to him. I love doing it, but wouldn’t if he hadn’t made his declarations.