Well, this could be a great marriage, or it could be the biggest mistake of your life. And I’m not sure anyone can tell you which it is.

Do you think there’s any way you can have a three-way, in person conversation with a negotiator of sorts (a counselor, respected family member, priest, or whoever) to really hash this out? It seems in your conversations you raise your worries and he either waves them away or agrees to “cut down a bit” and this is not doing anything to ease your worries.

I would encourage you to really try to have a different kind of conversation about this issue, if you can make that happen somehow. One where he really hears you, and you really trust what he’s saying.

This is a tough one. I hope it works out for the best.