Dear Molly,
It’s also been over 3 months for me. And I can relate with some of your story.

I too felt like I pushed him away. He was perfect the way he was, but I wanted him to give me the love I wanted; instead of him giving me the love he has. A lot of things happened. He left. And after the break up, he told me he’s now happier being without me.

But here’s what I’ve learnt.

Yeah, you did mistakes, I did mistakes; but I guarantee you that they did too. No one is perfect. And we are not built solely by our mistakes. We are built by our awesomeness, kindness, love, ugliness, beauty, and mistake is just another trait we all have. And the fact they left us is because they see our flaws more than every other part we of us. Do I really want to be with someone who can only see my flaws? No, you shouldn’t too.

Being friends, is also definitely a bad bad idea.

And lastly, if you had stood up for yourself and do everything you wished you did, would it have changed anything? He’s not too scared to tell you he loves you. When a man loves you and when a man wants you, no fear and no mountains are going to stop him from stuttering right in front of you and say ‘I miss you, and I love you’. Maybe he loves you, but sadly he doesn’t want you bad enough for him to find you. So no, nothing you say or do in the past would change this. You deserve this one man that goes crazy of you; couldn’t sleep because of you and would call you 3am in the morning just to say ‘look woman, I tried really hard to resist this, but I can’t. I love you’. (okay, not exactly that dramatic but you get it).