All right, I’m sorry, here’s some real advice.

First off, the answer is right there in the thread title, as it so often is. “I always think, why me?” Right. So knock that off, you know it’s making you miserable. The next time you hear yourself thinking “Why me?” think, “Oh, hey! I don’t need to think that way. I know “why me” just leads to misery, so I’m going to take a moment to turn this around.” Say “why me” about the fact that you have a roof over your head in a country of wealth and freedom. Say “why me” to being born in the age of antibiotics. Say “why me” to the fact you have a healthy, functioning body and all the porn you could ever need one search term away. I don’t know. You can probably think of better things.

Keep reading those articles about how to gain yourself some self-esteem, positive attitude, emotional maturity and resilience. Sometimes it seems like it only works for an hour or so, but internalising that stuff will, over time, bring lasting change. Your zing-bam rush from a work-out doesn’t last either, but over time you’ll build muscle. This works just the same. Except you build yourself a better brain.

Now, about your Forever Alone issue: you’re focussing on the one thing making you unattractive (in your own perception) that happens to be something you cannot possibly change. I wonder why you focus on that. But there’s like the other 99.99% of attractiveness that you can change, which you’ve not even touched on.

OK. You’re short. Them’s the breaks. But do you dress well? Do you know how to carry yourself? Do you dance? That’s how my boyfriend caught my attention. I first saw him when he was swing dancing and even though I was with someone I was very attracted to (and who was classicly buff) when I saw him, large as he is, I thought: “Shake it baby!”

How much do you know about women/girls, about the things that make them annoyed and worked up and insecure? What are you doing to do to learn more? Do you know how rare it is for an 18-year-old to know and actually care about the stuff women care about? That would give you the edge over your peers in a snap. Learn shit about the world. Watch obscure films and documentaries. Volunteer in a foreign country. Travel. Put down the gamepad and read a book.

Also: put down the porn and actually educate yourself about how to give women pleasure. Your sexual education is up to you. There’s a ton of really good resources on the internet, and there’s more to sex than knowing where to find the clitoris. Although, to be honest, even that would probably give you an edge. The ability to give great orgasms may not be something women can see on you (and no, don’t ever try to brag about it) but they increase your chances for a lasting relationship by a generous margin. There’s a lot of guys who don’t know how, and can’t be bothered to learn. Learn, and their relative height will be worthless.

There are a lot of whiny baby-boys who are about your age. They threaten to overrun the internet, it seems. But this is good news for you. This means there’s actually not that much work you need to do to gain the edge in maturity. If you’ve got the edge in maturity, your height won’t mean a damn thing. Trust the woman who’s finally got herself a decent, upstanding, up-with-people man. Who happens to be well fat, and wonderfully skilled.