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Marshmallow
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I’m in my early twenties too and had a similar experience while growing up. My family was emotionally dysfunctional, my mom always victimized herself over every little thing and my dad blamed every little problem on me or her. They fought everyday, my dad always blaming me and my mom always begging me to take her side, it was suffocating and exhausting. I moved out when I was 18 and it was the best thing that I could have done for myself.

A little distance and growing up never hurts anyone. Hold down a stable job, pay for your own place and work towards your goals. Its always scary thinking you have to leave the comfort of your bedroom, its all you ever know but its the best thing for you.

Start by getting yourself a stable job, even if its not something you enjoy like a Cashier job, its a step towards independence. There is no reason why you can’t work a job, save up money and than pay for own schooling and housing. Your parents will respect you because you no longer live under their roof and you will be an independent adult. You will have control in your life, you can choose to save up money, go to school for Makeup or work toward your goals. You also do a lot of growing up when you move out because decisions become your own and you will need to deal with the consequences.

While I think its great you have a dream, be it Youtube, Make-Up, etc but you also need to be realistic. Being famous on Youtube is not easy and you will need a back up plan. Start of by being able to support yourself than reach for your dreams, to reach for the stars you have to be standing first.

You will be starting one of the most important and exciting decades of your life, your 20s is when you will lay the foundation for your life as an adult. Don’t waste it by being in a room watching Youtube Videos and hoping everything just kinda of works out. Your parents will not change nor will you magically have a car and a job you desire. Get up and go after the things you want. Time flies by very quickly.