What a beautiful response, Kori.

I, too, wish you well. It may help you to consider your hatred as the twisted outgrowth of something else you mentioned: you’re terrified of what the future hold. You don’t know how you’ll manage. That’s not just a tough situation to be in practically (and it certainly is, and I hope and trust you’ll find ways to make it work) but a vulnerable position to be in emotionally. Much easier to be in a state of rage, because rage feels active and hatred is self-satisfying, even if they are both ultimately painful emotions.

So you’re now in a state of “It’s all his fault.” And I want to make clear that I don’t take issue with that statement: it may very well be all his fault. But being in a place of all his fault doesn’t leave you with anything to do. You’re giving away your power.

It’s not going to be easy, but you may be able to grow from a place of all his fault to a different place: I can do this. From I hate that man to I love my children, and even though I don’t know how right now, I know I will fight for them to have a good life.

I wish you and your children health and happiness. Keep turning away from him, and back to you and yours. You can do this.