My potential sister in law is somewhat the same as this. But she is very quiet about how she continuously makes my life difficult. My boyfriend’s mother and father have invited my family around at the weekend to spend some time at their house in Essex and given the opportunity, we took up the offer due to the fact that i live in the West Midlands.
I only found out that my boyfriend’s sister was not going to be present at the FIRST family get together because she wants to revise for an exam she has in 2 weeks.
I was angry and upset that she wasn’t making the effort with me or my family and that she had used a lame excuse to get out of this family get together.

After a while though, i realised that only getting myself down about it is only going to hurt me even more inside. I knew that i had made many efforts with her in the past and none of them had been acknowledged by her or her parents but i decided that i wasn’t going to be sad about it anymore.

My advise to Saoirse, is to just hold your head up high and carry on being happy with every intention and thought of happiness in your body.

My 3 tips to follow are:
1.) Speak when you are spoken to.
– the best thing to do is just be quiet and listen to your surroundings. Embrace the world you are in and look at all the natural things that bring you make down to earth again. When someone asks you a question, answer it and then resume with looking around. Simple.

2.) Don’t get angry.
– As the timeless Disney (and very annoying) song goes, ‘Let it go!’ If you hold it with you for days and nights, you’re only hurting yourself. Don’t let negativity like that get the better of you. You are in charge of you and you can control your thoughts to be positive, happy and free.

3.) Read books and talk about your emotions on a regular basis.
– This one is a bit far-fetched but if you talk about your problems with a close friend or boyfriend you will feel like you can finally be at peace once its out. The most important part after you do this is DON’T GET YOUR ANGER GET THE BETTER OF YOU. Consider this to be the last thing you do before closing the case and not mentioning it again.
Books are a really good way to get into the spiritual side of feeling better about yourself. My most recent read was a book by one of my favourite people in the world – Thich Nhat Hanh. (He is really good at making you feel better about yourself and not getting angry about insignificant others that try to get you down!)

Practice self-control. Be witty but not rude and don’t let it get you down.