Hi seanbon,

The first thing to do is to get rid of “it’s not too much to ask” mentality concerning your wife.

You moved house and remarried way too soon/suddenly. Then you made threats for years to leave. You did. Now you want her to move house.

Why would she? In all seriousness, I can see why she wouldn’t.

The best thing, the easiest thing, would be to live with your kids until they’ve all “launched”, whether that be college or in their first apartments. I would wait until the youngest is 22/23 myself, to make up for all the past instability. Give them some years of “stable”. If your wife wants to move and be with you guys, great! If not, it’s still good.

Then, sell the house and move back in with your wife. In the meantime, love her from separate houses. Go to counseling. Date her. Don’t call a divorce lawyer. If she serves you divorce papers, accept it.

To Stability,

Inky