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I assume she dumped you to begin with. Women usually initiate the break up… In this case you should have no regrets dating other people. You ex didn’t really care you were seeing new girls her ego was just ruffled
The reason I highly recommend against pouring you heart out via email is that it never works. Ive been around the block and never seen it work in my lifetime. It comes across as desperate to women. I recommend coffee so that you can read her body language, tone of voice, and get back to dating slowly… Not full steam ahead which only works in movies. You have to learn that a lot of love is about subtlety and mystery. Not logic or long emails.
But don’t beat yourself up. I’ve done stupider things. Reality is once she dumps you its up to her to repair the relationship. Not you. The fact that you already wrote an email of this type speaks to its ineffecieny.
I’ll be honest here. You have little control over your thoughts and emotions at the moment… You are letting your brain run wild with “what if” stories rather than dwelling in reality… Which is that you are yearning for someone that isnt interested and causing suffering for yourself. Your ego doesn’t want to lose and you are expending untold amounts of energy on this situation. I recommend you develop a mindful meditation practice, this will help you pierce through the fog and see reality. 40 minutes per day.
Does your ideal wife dump you? Act unloving? Not care enough to respond?… Moreover think of healthy male role models. Would tom Brady cry for his ex back or would he get on with his life and focus on getting his needs met? Lastly have compassion on yourself for it not working out. Even the rich and famous get their hearts kicked around. Get out there and ask for 10 new phone numbers this week… When you get 2 or 3 you’ll have a smile on your face and hope for more fun in the future.
Namaste