hey! In a way, I’m glad she hasn’t reached out to you after the heated discussion. She seems like a very insecure person; belittling her own brother and even being as shallow as pointing out how he looks. And because she couldn’t give her brother a reason as to why she didn’t like you, I genuinely think she’s just nit-picking at immature things, which is really sad.

I’m glad your boyfriend went to talk to his dad (your father-in-law), because i often do this too with my mother. I’m always telling her about how much my sister-in-law is emotionally hurting me. And the best part is, that your father-in-law and my mother both have said the same thing – Stop asking, stop trying to change the way she is and concentrate on the relationship you have with your other half. My mother always says; “You are marrying your boyfriend, not his parents or siblings.” And that is what i always remind myself when times get hard.

In the past 3 months, I have lost 2 of my Uncles on both my mother’s and father’s side of my family so things here have been horrible for all of us. My mother and father-in-law, phoned my parents to offer their condolences and my boyfriend came to visit the family almost immediately after he heard the news.
I text my sister-in-law about 2 days ago, asking how she was, how her holiday was with her partner (and he had fallen ill with food poisoning), so i asked if he was feeling better. At first, she read my messages, but didn’t reply. Then the next day, she text me back saying she had forgotten to text me – which i was fine with.
She asked how i was, to which i said things were getting better around here but its very difficult. At this point, she went quiet.
Then she said, “Oh my brother’s only just told me about your Uncle. Sorry about that.” I changed the subject very quickly but i was angry.
I was so angry that my boyfriend didn’t tell her and nobody in his family (cousins, aunties, uncles) offered their condolences at the time. Not even my sister-in-law.
My sister who is recently and happily married told her in-laws and all her husband’s family, and they were at my house almost everyday after we got the bad news.

I finally understand, that some people, you will never be able to change, and accepting them for who they are is hard… but you have to do it. After acceptance, you can finally start to live life in peace.
I’m happy that you have chosen this route too and that things are looking up for you and your boyfriend.
I’m happy too. Difficult times only make a person stronger!

Btw, how do you pronounce your name? (There was an Irish girl at school, who had the same name as you but i never spoke to her because i couldn’t say her name!)
xo