Hi sam123,

This is counter-intuitive advice, but: Sometime to get Through It we have to get 100% Into It.

1. There is a movie called 50 Dates, or 100 Dates.. Do that. Go on Match or to Meet Ups and go out with your friend’s friends. Fill up your calendar with one to three new guys every weekend. Obviously, meet in safe places, etc.

2. Have NO expectations. Let THEM do all the work. View this as FUN! You are there for wine and good company. Nothing more. If they want more, they’ll let you know it. Let them have the romantic fantasies!

3. Based on statistics and the “10,000 Hour” effect, you will find The One and immediately know which guys aren’t for you and not get attached if it doesn’t work out, as you have more dates/events/guys to look forward to.

Radical, but might work,

Inky