Dear Anne:
meditation and mindfulness, tools and skills- great. You also need insight about how your original attachment trauma/ injury happened. How you were abandoned in some way by a parent/s. We are social beings and always need others in our lives. How to need another but not obsess- look into the original abandonment/ neglect, feel the pain- within good psychotherapy ? and integrate that experience into your brain so that the unresolved anagndonment pain, attachment-injury stops replaying itself- it wants your attention, acknowledgment. It wants to be known and it will probably not go away and will not allow you to “move on” until it is properly, adequaltely, sufficiently and empathetically ACKNOWLEDGED.
Take care:
anita