Hi Again,

I think it’s interesting that R is not only playing the role of the third wheel, but she is also the fifth wheel (whether L thinks of it that way or not). Not to be all Noah’s Ark about it, but… MAYBE you can casually invite one of your single guy friends over while she’s at the house. That will distract her enough that some red flags might turn to yellow… I do think it’s weird that she follows M and L around constantly.

You are definitely picking up a vibe, or you wouldn’t be AS insecure about it. You know, just as long as you’re there with your DH it should be OK.

What you don’t want (what happened to me) is for R herself to be all, “Let’s get together!” With our third wheel, what I did was say “SURE!” She came over… a very awkward silence… then… “Where’s your DH???” and I was all, “Who needs the guys, let’s have girl night!” I ALWAYS made sure he was on a business trip. After a few tries she blocked me on FB, proving I wasn’t imagining things.