Hi Jason,

Married men look to other women even if times are good. Married women look to other men only when times are bad. This guy is giving her something she so desperately needs that she isn’t getting from you. Here is the trick to get her back heart, mind and soul:

Treat her so well that YOU become her lover (or best friend, assuming nothing went on), and that YOU are stealing her away from HIM.

I know you aren’t in the mood to do this, and you want to talk it out, but you will NEVER resolve it through talking alone! In fact, at this point, talk is detrimental!

Someone or Life itself is telling her (and frankly most women) that she’s not good enough. YOU need to compliment her on how great she looks, cook her nice foods, help a little in the house AND/OR say THANK YOU for even the smallest thing she does in the house. Compliment the children when you catch them being good and say that they take after their mother.

She looks to him for a zing of excitement, appreciation, and to get away from a life where nothing she does is good enough. Then, she comes back from a man who makes her feel beautiful to complaints, noise, and drudgery.

Whatever you did all those years ago to win her love, do again. Take her out, dress up, compliment her, sweep her off her feet. When you were dating you never brought up the other guys did you? You are the only one in her world, truly. Time to remind her of that!

Best,

Inky