Anita,
She did blame me for several months and I tried to fix everything I could. Then she said she had a realization that it wasn’t me but her. That is when we started the cycle of good times and then it gets bad for a bit. The last time I confronted her about speaking to him again, it was a huge blow up and she said she didn’t realize how much it hurt me and she really thought it would blow over and we all could be friends again.