Interesting question, Joel. And here’s my 2 cents. 😉

My answer is, neither. Instead, we need to strive to understand and redefine what we call “shortcomings.” Look at things you’ve done in the past, or things you regard as flaws. And really work do understand WHY you did what you did at the time, or WHY you act the way that you do in the present. The reason that we do things we’re not proud of, is fear and misunderstanding. I would even venture to say that we will never do something “bad,” if we are able to truly see reality, with no misunderstandings.

Bethany
http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org