Hi Rose Tatto,

I’m sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough time.

Your boyfriend sounds very manipulative, and I think it is normal to feel angry over this. It seems like you are judging yourself very harshly for your outbursts, and while it is not ok to be violent or to physically hurt someone else, there is nothing wrong with being angry and expressing your feelings. I am wondering (though I am not a psychologist!!) if your abusive father has something to do with these feelings? As in, if you witnessed him being aggressive and violent perhaps you are subconscioulsy afraid of becoming like this if you get angry too and so judge yourself very harshly when you feel anger?

Don’t be embarrassed about it amongst your friends, people in your community who have any real insight or know your boyfriend well will see that he is a player and a user and I’m sure would not be judging you. Be kind to yourself, stand your ground and take your rightful place amongst your friends and let him go. I do believe the more you love yourself the more likely you are to attract a good man that will treat you well.

Blessings xo