Dear Anita,

Thank you for responding. I appreciate it very much.

My answers are:
1) yes 2) yes 3) yes
4) They have experienced my mom’s negativity and when my mom first got sick and wouldn’t listen to me about seeking healthcare, I asked for advice from my siblings as to what I should do because I felt alone and didn’t want to make a decision they’d later be upset at me for. Once I got my mom help I was then asked to keep them updated and not to be afraid to ask for their assistance. I had to ask once for another one of them yo give mom a ride and got a poor attitude and was lashed out at by another one of the siblings for making the one I asked to help feel like they HAD to do it. I simply asked because I had a prior engagement that had been planned for a long while prior to my mom becoming ill, not to make any one of them feel obligated.
5) No, it’s absolutely, positively unfair to my kids to put being a kid on the back burner. Again, another situation my siblings can’t understand why I don’t “just let them.” Timing, meaning, other parents get out of work at 4 pm and I’m to have mom at an appointment around the same time and get out too late to let them go over to play. Usually weekends work out to play with friends but again we are either busy with activities or their friends are busy….

I have, since posting my initial post, have decided that I will be cutting ties for sure with at least one of my siblings. She has always been cruel and just plain mean to everyone in our family, not just me. I’ve also decided that I will not be attending my nephew’s wedding. I just can’t afford (it’s a destination wedding) to go as it is, let alone spending the money to have my sister do nothing BUT belittle me and my family. I feel horrible about my decision for my nephews sake, but my sister is that horrible to us that Im already suffering anxiety of being around her for a week on a ship…