Hi redcar,

On the day you cheated, you found out that you, too, were only human, after all. No better and no worse than the rest of humanity. Now, if you’ve always imagined yourself a “good” person, a “morally upstanding” person, or had always looked down on cheaters that would be quite a shock to you! It is hard to settle and see yourself in the dreggy baseline of common humanity. (50% of people cheat). However! You, too, STILL deserve love and friendship!!

Now, I hate to say it, but if YOU cheated, and your old boyfriend would never IMAGINE you doing such a thing ~ how do you know HE hasn’t cheated during the dull moments? Keep in mind, you, too, would NEVER IMAGINE him cheating either!

We ALL have done things we’re not proud of. No exceptions. None.

To save his feelings, if he later says, “Oh, I heard from so-and-so that you cheated on me with Bob from the bar” YOU say, “Yup, just ask John, Joe, and Peter with the glasses about me. I’m their head hoe!” and laugh it off. Make a joke out of any rumors by then EXAGERRATING it. This will make them feel you’ve been unfairly maligned.

Be Easy on Yourself Now,

Inky